Another relative (not my uncle this time), sent me the email below, but (I think smartly) asked me if it was accurate. My response follows the email:
This was written by a woman born in Egypt as a Muslim.
This is not heresay, and it will scare the life out of you. Make sure you read the paragraph (in red) towards the end.
Joys of Muslim Women
by Nonie DarwishIn the Muslim faith a Muslim man can marry a child as young as 1 year old and have sexual intimacy with this child. Consummating the marriage by 9. The dowry is given to the family in exchange for the woman (who becomes his slave) and for the purchase of the private parts of the woman, to use her as a toy.
Even though a woman is abused she can not obtain a divorce. To prove rape, the woman must have (4) male witnesses. Often after a woman has been raped, she is returned to her family and the family must return the dowry. The family has the right to execute her (an honor killing) to restore the honor of the family. Husbands can beat their wives ‘at will’ and he does not have to say why he has beaten her.
The husband is permitted to have (4 wives) and a temporary wife for an hour (prostitute) at his discretion.
The Shariah Muslim law controls the private as well as the public life of the woman.
In the West World ( America ) Muslim men are starting to demand Shariah Law so the wife can not obtain a divorce and he can have full and complete control of her. It is amazing and alarming how many of our sisters and daughters attending American Universities are now marrying Muslim men and submitting themselves and their children unsuspectingly to the Shariah law.
By passing this on, enlightened American women may avoid becoming a slave under Shariah Law.
Ripping the West in Two.
Author and lecturer Nonie Darwish says the goal of radical Islamists is to impose Shariah law on the world, ripping Western law and liberty in two.She recently authored the book, Cruel and Usual Punishment: The Terrifying Global Implications of Islamic Law.
Darwish was born in Cairo and spent her childhood in Egypt and Gaza before immigrating to America in 1978, when she was eight years old. Her father died while leading covert attacks on Israel . He was a high-ranking Egyptian military officer stationed with his family in Gaza .
When he died, he was considered a “shahid,” a martyr for jihad. His posthumous status earned Nonie and her family an elevated position in Muslim society.
But Darwish developed a skeptical eye at an early age. She questioned her own Muslim culture and upbringing.. She converted to Christianity after hearing a Christian preacher on television.
In her latest book, Darwish warns about creeping sharia law – what it is, what it means, and how it is manifested in Islamic countries.
For the West, she says radical Islamists are working to impose sharia on the world. If that happens, Western civilization will be destroyed. Westerners generally assume all religions encourage a respect for the dignity of each individual. Islamic law (Sharia) teaches that non-Muslims should be subjugated or killed in this world.
Peace and prosperity for one’s children is not as important as assuring that Islamic law rules everywhere in the Middle East and eventually in the world.
While Westerners tend to think that all religions encourage some form of the golden rule, Sharia teaches two systems of ethics – one for Muslims and another for non-Muslims. Building on tribal practices of the seventh century, Sharia encourages the side of humanity that wants to take from and subjugate others.
While Westerners tend to think in terms of religious people developing a personal understanding of and relationship with God, Sharia advocates executing people who ask difficult questions that could be interpreted as criticism.
It’s hard to imagine, that in this day and age, Islamic scholars agree that those who criticize Islam or choose to stop being Muslim should be executed. Sadly, while talk of an Islamic reformation is common and even assumed by many in the West, such murmurings in the Middle East are silenced through intimidation.
While Westerners are accustomed to an increase in religious tolerance over time, Darwish explains how petro dollars are being used to grow an extremely intolerant form of political Islam in her native Egypt and elsewhere.
(In twenty years there will be enough Muslim voters in the U.S. to elect the President by themselves! Rest assured they will do so… You can look at how they have taken over several towns in the USA .. Dearborn Mich. is one… and there are others…)
I think everyone in the U.S. should be required to read this, but with the ACLU, there is no way this will be widely publicized, unless each of us sends it on!
It is too bad that so many are disillusioned with life and Christianity to accept Muslims as peaceful.. some may be but they have an army that is willing to shed blood in the name of Islam.. the peaceful support the warriors with their finances and own kind of patriotism to their religion. While America is getting rid of Christianity from all public sites and erasing God from the lives of children the Muslims are planning a great jihad on America ..
This is your chance to make a difference…! Pass it on to your email list or at least those you think will listen..
Some of those I’m sending it to WILL NOT! Put your head back under the covers so you can’t see the boogie man!
My response:
Thanks for contacting me. You’re right that I have some insight into these types of things as I study religion as my job. So, I’ll do my best to address the claims in the email.
Oh, and keep in mind where I’m coming from as I address the points in the email… I’m not sure how much you know about my current religious views, but the short version is I’m not religious. I only mention that so you know that I’m not trying to defend Islam, but rather be as fair as possible. Because I am not religious, I don’t feel like I have to defend any religion and can be equally critical of all religions. So, that’s the approach I’ll take here.
First off, a number of websites are claiming that Nonie Darwish is not the author of the email (see here and here). Despite not having written the email, Darwish has suggested that she thinks a lot of what it says is accurate (according to one of the previously mentioned websites). I’m going to take issue with her on that. But I think it is worth noting that Darwish is a former Muslim turned Christian who appears to make her living criticizing Islam (per her Wikipedia page). She has also embraced (and been embraced by) the far right in the political sphere in the U.S. The above suggests to me that she may not be the most reliable source of information on Islam.So, let’s examine the claims one by one.
This was written by a woman born in Egypt as a Muslim.
Well, this seems to be referring to Nonie Darwish. But Nonie denies it. So, the email is off to a bad start as it begins with an outright lie.
This is not heresay, and it will scare the life out of you.
If someone has to tell you that what they are saying is not “heresay” (which is misspelled, another bad sign; it should read “hearsay”), I’m inclined to believe that it is precisely hearsay. People with accurate information provide sources for their readers, so they can verify their information. This email does not. So, we’re starting out with an outright lie and someone trying to set people up to believe what the email says.
In the Muslim faith a Muslim man can marry a child as young as 1 year old and have sexual intimacy with this child. Consummating the marriage by 9. The dowry is given to the family in exchange for the woman (who becomes his slave) and for the purchase of the private parts of the woman, to use her as a toy.
This is really the first “fact claim” made in the email and it’s not really accurate. First off, if you take the Quran as the foundation of Islam, which most Muslims would, the Quran says virtually nothing about age at first marriage. Critics of Islam would be certain to jump on any verse in the Quran that says girls can be married as young as 1 and men can have sexual intimacy with that child. Such a statement in the Quran would be condemned by, well, everyone except the most extreme pedophiles. So, doing some quick searching, I found some articles online written by critics who have found what the Quran says about age at first marriage (see here). Basically, one verse (4:6) suggests that the youngest age for a girl to be married is at puberty, which, of course, is not a specific age as girls go through puberty at different ages (from about 9-15, for most girls, give or take a few years). So, the initial claim that Islam says men can marry a child as young as 1 and be sexually intimate with that child is simply untrue.
I can, however, imagine one slight variation of this idea having some truth. In cultures where arranged marriages are common, it is possible that a young girl, as young as 1 or even younger, could be promised to an older man. But I have never seen any evidence to suggest that girls promised to older men are married to them until they are substantially older, and certainly it is not common or even accepted practice for older men to have sex with 1 year old children in Islam or in any predominantly Muslim country.
This statement then confounds the original claim (marriage and sex at 1) with the next claim, saying that the marriage can be “consummated” by age 9. Basically, the second phrase (it’s not a complete sentence) contradicts the first (the email is poorly written). What’s interesting about this second claim is that there is some evidence that Mohammad, the founder of Islam, married a girl at age 6 and consummated the marriage at age 9 (see here). If this is true (and it seems likely that it is), then Mohammad may have acted in contradiction to the very scripture he claimed to reveal by marrying a pre-pubescent girl. The morality of that, especially given the time period and culture, is certainly open to debate. But as far as the email goes, there is no mention of the connection to Mohammad. So, basically, what you have is the author of the email making an almost completely unfounded claim (marriage and sex at 1) that is then coupled with the alleged age of consummation of marriage by Mohammad with one of his wives, Aisha. Whoever wrote this is either very ignorant or intentionally confusing.
The next part of the above quote claims that the woman is “purchased,” specifically her “private parts,” and that she is to be used as a toy by men. This, too, is simply far too misleading to be of merit. Islam has no monopoly on mistreating women and, in fact, was arguably well ahead of its time in giving women legal status, which was far more progressive than medieval Europe (deeply entrenched in Christianity at that time). Even so, women in many religious traditions have been seen as little more than property. In fact, this idea is enshrined in the 10 Commandments: Exodus 20:17 “Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour’s.” The last part of this verse makes it quite clear that women are seen as being the property of their husband. In short, treating women as property – originally as her father’s, then as her husband’s (which is why she adopts his name in the Western World, because men put their name on their property) – was a widespread cultural practice prior to the 1600s (you can see the status of women in the Bible here and here). As I noted, Islam was actually progressive on this issue, as is outlined here. Are women depicted as “toys” or “playthings” for their husbands in the Quran? Not really. And, trust me, I’m no fan of the treatment of women in the Quran, where they are clearly illustrated to be less than a man (seehere). So, if I could find a verse that said that women were “toys” for men, I’d certainly point it out. The Quran does say that men can have sex with their wives pretty much whenever they want (see here), but it doesn’t go so far as to say that women are “toys” or “playthings” or sex slaves (though some might consider that implied). Overall, then, are women in Islam sold as property to their husbands to be toys? No. That’s simply not true, generally. Are women sometimes and in some places treated as “property” in predominantly Muslim societies? Yes. But this also happens in Buddhist, Christian, and even Mormon societies. That doesn’t justify it – it’s wrong wherever it occurs. But it does suggest that this is not something unique to Islam.
Next claim:
Even though a woman is abused she can not obtain a divorce.
This is not true. Not only does the Quran not say that women cannot divorce, it actually says they can. Yes, it is harder for a woman to get a divorce than for a man to get a divorce, and this varies by culture/nation, but women in Islam can divorce. See here and here.
To prove rape, the woman must have (4) male witnesses.
Wrong again, see here. While there are instances when women have been punished for having been raped (though, in all fairness, in the case I’m thinking about from Saudi Arabia, the punishment was supposedly from her being alone in a car with a male, not for being raped), mostly Muslims oppose this. The author of this email is confusing adultery with rape; see here.
Often after a woman has been raped, she is returned to her family and the family must return the dowry. The family has the right to execute her (an honor killing) to restore the honor of the family. Husbands can beat their wives ‘at will’ and he does not have to say why he has beaten her.
Once again, the author is confusing different elements of Islam and Arabic culture. Rarely after a woman is raped is she killed by her family over family honor, but it has happened (see here). However, as the example I just cited makes clear, the family members involved in that honor killing were sentenced to life in prison for killing their raped daughter. Honor killings do occur (see here). Of course I don’t think they are ever justified, but rarely do they occur over rape. Usually they occur when a woman has “shamed” the family by leaving an arranged marriage or had sex outside of marriage (again, I’m not justifying honor killings, just clarifying; in my opinion they are always wrong). So, the above claim is again misleading, even in how it is worded. If you look at it carefully, it basically suggests that a woman is (1) married, thus the dowry, then (2) is raped, then (3) is returned to her family, and (4) her family has the right to murder her. Unless the intent of the author of the email was to suggest that married women in Islam are just raped by their husbands (some, I’m sure, are, but most are not), then this doesn’t make sense. If a married woman in Islam was raped (and it was not in conjunction with her breaking any other customs or laws), there would be no punishment for the woman at all (in almost all cases; again, I can’t say in all cases as that isn’t known). So, the claim makes no sense.
As for husbands being allowed to beat their wives… Well, yes, this is suggested in at least one verse in the Quran (4:34), as a last resort to getting women to submit to their husbands. It’s abhorrent and immoral. Of course, submission of women to men is also demanded in the Bible (Ephesians 5:22-24), but it does not explicitly say that beating is allowed. Either way, wives submitting to husbands and abuse are terrible. This is probably the closest to accurate statement in the email so far.
The husband is permitted to have (4 wives) and a temporary wife for an hour (prostitute) at his discretion.
The Quran allows polygamy – up to 4 wives. This is accurate. Prostitution is not prohibited in Islam and “enjoyment marriages” (basically prostitution) have and do take place in predominantly Muslim cultures and are justified by Shariah Law (seehere). I’m not going to debate the morality of prostitution in this response, but I will note that both polygamy and prostitution are pretty common in the Bible as well and their positions in the Bible, morally, are quite ambiguous.
The Shariah Muslim law controls the private as well as the public life of the woman.
Shariah is very complicated in Islam, as not all Muslims agree what is included as part of Shariah (see here). Some include just the Quran, others include additional teachings and interpretations. If you include just the Quran, the above statement is probably not true. The Quran does not explicitly detail things like Muslim veiling practices. If you take a broader interpretation of Shariah and include the other teachings, this statement may be true. So, again, this is a misleading and confusing statement.
In the West World ( America ) Muslim men are starting to demand Shariah Law so the wife can not obtain a divorce and he can have full and complete control of her. It is amazing and alarming how many of our sisters and daughters attending American Universities are now marrying Muslim men and submitting themselves and their children unsuspectingly to the Shariah law.
“West World”? Ughh! Whoever wrote this doesn’t know how to write! Anyway, this claim is much looser and therefore much more difficult to address. Basically, you can find one or two instances of people trying to advocate Sharia in the West and say this claim is true (and such examples exist; see here). But how widespread is it? My sense, and I don’t have hard numbers on this, is that this represents a minority of Muslims in the West. As far as the motivations for instituting Shariah, which are implied in this (primarily female submission and oppression), my sense is that advocacy of Shariah is not strictly to control women and children but for many because they believe it is required to live their religion.
By passing this on, enlightened American women may avoid becoming a slave under Shariah Law.
This interjection breaks the flow of the rant, but is also erroneous. Women are not slaves in Islam. Are they required to submit to their husbands? Yes, technically. But for many Muslim women, that “requirement” is not closely followed, just as many Christian women don’t “submit” to their husbands. Some might consider submission to be the equivalent of slavery, but I wouldn’t go quite that far. I don’t like the idea of “submission” and think it is immoral, but it is not slavery (not far removed from it, but not, technically, the same thing).
Author and lecturer Nonie Darwish says the goal of radical Islamists is to impose Shariah law on the world, ripping Western law and liberty in two.
Nonie Darwish may or may not have said this. I don’t know. I haven’t read her books. But it sounds like a reasonable statement – radical Muslims do want to make the entire world Muslim. That is true. But they also make up a very small percentage of Muslims – maybe 5% to 10% of Muslims are truly radical in their views.
The next parts of the email are basically taken from Nonie Darwish’s wikipedia page, so I’m going to skip them. I’ll start again here:
For the West, she says radical Islamists are working to impose sharia on the world. If that happens, Western civilization will be destroyed. Westerners generally assume all religions encourage a respect for the dignity of each individual. Islamic law (Sharia) teaches that non-Muslims should be subjugated or killed in this world.
I already addressed the first sentence. Yes, some radical Muslims want that. And, yes, if that occurred the world would be radically different – by definition. But it isn’t going to happen. Radical Muslims are a minority of Muslims and they aren’t growing in any dramatic way.
The second part of the above quote is actually more interesting to me. The claim is made that Westerners advocate dignity of the individual. That’s certainly true of secular humanists, but much less of most religions. The Old Testament (and parts of the New Testament) is full of god telling his chosen people to kill others; genocide is pretty common in the Old Testament. That runs counter to autonomy. Yes, Western culture does generally advocate individualism, that’s true. But that is largely through secular development, not because of religion.
Does the Quran advocate killing or subjugating non-Muslims? Technically, only if they attack Muslims (though the Quran goes a bit further with the non-religious, suggesting that maybe it’s okay to kill them). Shariah may go further than that and suggest that all non-Muslims must die, but that is certainly not the view of most Muslims.
Peace and prosperity for one’s children is not as important as assuring that Islamic law rules everywhere in the Middle East and eventually in the world.
This may be true for the radicals, but it is not true for most Muslims. Of course, radical Christians want a theocracy as well (see here), but most Christians don’t. This is basically just the worldview of radical religionists everywhere.
While Westerners tend to think that all religions encourage some form of the golden rule, Sharia teaches two systems of ethics – one for Muslims and another for non-Muslims. Building on tribal practices of the seventh century, Sharia encourages the side of humanity that wants to take from and subjugate others.
Despite my criticisms of Islam, I don’t find the above compelling. Does the Quran talk about different systems of ethics for Muslims and non-Muslims? Yes. But like many religions, it holds Muslims to a higher standard of charity and goodwill to others than it holds non-Muslims. Claiming that the goal of Islam is to subjugate others I believe is simply untrue. Would Muslims say that they want to convert everyone to Islam? Sure. But so do most Christians (i.e., Catholics, Mormons, etc.) and many other religionists and even most secularists. That’s very different from subjugating others.
While Westerners tend to think in terms of religious people developing a personal understanding of and relationship with God, Sharia advocates executing people who ask difficult questions that could be interpreted as criticism. It’s hard to imagine, that in this day and age, Islamic scholars agree that those who criticize Islam or choose to stop being Muslim should be executed. Sadly, while talk of an Islamic reformation is common and even assumed by many in the West, such murmurings in the Middle East are silenced through intimidation.
We finally get to the section where the author’s biases are made clear. The author of this email is a Christian, and likely an evangelical Christian (given the emphasis on a personal relationship with god). The Quran does not say execute people who ask questions and, in fact, it does not say to execute people who leave Islam. Sharia law does call for executing people who leave Islam, but many Muslims don’t agree with Sharia law on that point. And it’s not like the status of Christian apostates is much better. Many apostates from Christianity have been killed over the years. That’s unlikely to happen today, particularly in the U.S., but they are still demonized and not treated very well. So, I’d say the author is being duplicitous here – claiming Christianity is better than Islam and kinder to its apostates. Neither claim rings true to me.
While Westerners are accustomed to an increase in religious tolerance over time, Darwish explains how petro dollars are being used to grow an extremely intolerant form of political Islam in her native Egypt and elsewhere.
Darwish may claim this. Again, I don’t know. But whether the goal of petroleum dollars is to grow extremist Islam or not I think is highly questionable. My sense is that in some countries oil money is used to enrich the leaders of the countries. In others, some of the money may be funneled to religious extremists. But this makes it seem as though oil money is channeled directly to fundamentalists. I don’t think that is accurate.
(In twenty years there will be enough Muslim voters in the U.S. to elect the President by themselves! Rest assured they will do so… You can look at how they have taken over several towns in the USA .. Dearborn Mich. is one… and there are others…)
As a sociologist who studies trends in religious affiliation for his job and has published on this, I can pretty confidently say that this claim is complete and utter garbage. Most of my commentary on the previous content of the email is really that of a fairly well-educated expert on religion, but not on Islam. But this particular claim is literally what I study – religious growth and decline. Islam is barely growing in the U.S., and it is doing so primarily through immigration, not conversion. Also, most of the Muslims who move to the U.S. pretty quickly assimilate and are much less extreme in their views than are the radicals in other parts of the world. While a few religions in the U.S. are growing in absolute numbers (e.g., Catholicism), most are shrinking as a percentage of the population as the non-religious continue to grow. I have argued in my research that the growth of the non-religious is likely to continue. If any group will be in a position to elect a president in 20 years in the U.S., it will be the non-religious, not Muslims.
I think everyone in the U.S. should be required to read this, but with the ACLU, there is no way this will be widely publicized, unless each of us sends it on!
This is a tell-tale sign of a poorly written, crappy chain email. Not only does it baselessly rail against the ACLU, which would actually protect the author’s right to write this, but it asks that you send it on. That’s a good indication that the author of this email is a right-wing conservative Christian who hates the ACLU and feels threatened by immigration and people not like him/her.
It is too bad that so many are disillusioned with life and Christianity to accept Muslims as peaceful.. some may be but they have an army that is willing to shed blood in the name of Islam.. the peaceful support the warriors with their finances and own kind of patriotism to their religion. While America is getting rid of Christianity from all public sites and erasing God from the lives of children the Muslims are planning a great jihad on America ..
Most Muslims are peaceful. If that were not the case, we would have far more wars than we currently do as Muslims make up 1/6 of the world’s population. So, the author has his/her numbers wrong. As for their being “an army” willing to shed blood… Sure, there are some willing to do that (e.g., Al Qaeda, Hamas, etc.). But there are also Christians willing to do that, as the terrorist actions of Christians in the U.S. and abroad illustrate (most recently with the killing of Dr. Tiller in Kansas, which was a terrorist act on American soil perpetrated by a Christian on a Christian). This doesn’t make me say that most Christians are violent or part of an army out to kill Muslims or the non-religious. Likewise, most Muslims are peace loving and are not supportive of terrorism.
This is your chance to make a difference…! Pass it on to your email list or at least those you think will listen.. Some of those I’m sending it to WILL NOT! Put your head back under the covers so you can’t see the boogie man!
Once again, this is a tell-tale sign of a poorly written, unreferenced, unsourced chain letter. Passing these along makes people more prejudiced by encouraging them to believe things that are simply not true. Maybe 20% of the content of this email is kind of accurate. The rest is either completely untrue, half-truths, or misleading. The real boogie man is the person who wrote this.
Do keep in mind as I said at the outset, I’m no fan of religion, including Islam. If you want to criticize religion, there is plenty to criticize without telling lies. Islam, like most other religions, has a number of problems, including the mistreatment of women, scientific inaccuracies, and a reliance on outdated moral teachings from the 7th Century. Those are all points worthy of criticism. This email falls very flat in trying to criticize Islam and reveals more about the ignorance and biases of the author than it does about Islam.
I hope this helps. And feel free to contact me about things like this in the future.
Best,
Ryan
